Thoughts about Beautification - My Rant

Beautification is the process of making visual improvements to a person, place or thing. With regard to a town, city or to an urban area, this most often involves planting trees, shrubbery, and other greenery, but frequently also includes adding decorative or historic-style street lights and other lighting and replacing broken pavement, often with brick or other natural materials. Old-fashioned cobblestones are sometimes used for crosswalks; they provide the additional benefit of slowing motorists.

Beautification projects are often undertaken by city councils to refurbish their downtown areas, in order to boost tourism or other commerce. Often, this is also spurred by broken sidewalks, which pose a safety hazard for pedestrians and potentially insurmountable obstacles for wheelchair users. These projects are frequently part of other larger projects such as construction, especially in conjunction with ones for transit, such as streets and roads and mass transit.

ABOVE DEFINITION DEFINED IN WIKIPEDIA - You can look it up yourself at wikipedia.org

Because I have been a resident of my city for over 20 years, I feel that this need is important. I have worked with many of these workers, who are utilized to help maintain the beautification of our City. I am not being negative toward them and their work they have done. They have done much work but the supply of workers, doesn’t meet the demand of our city. Neither do the funds for the equipment meet its financial needs. I still don’t think that this has any effect on why I am writing this blog.

I’ve recently noticed that area’s where the big offices of the City Hall, or The Police Department, or the Community Relations Office are located are much cleaner than other area’s in our City. I noticed things that have been over looked even though the workers continue to maintain certain areas of the City’s shrubs and scenic views. The City has made many developments and many enhancements but I have also noticed money being spent in areas of our City that could be spent on other areas of more importance. 

For instance one area of the City where the welcome sign is has been beautified twice! Not just once but the first time they did it, I was amazed and it looked beautiful and over time I have watched them change it for a second time. They laid down grass and then they dug it up and laid it out again, it was like kids with building blocks. Either someone was making decisions and couldn’t decide exactly the way it should have looked in the first place.

These are the things I have witnessed with my very own eyes. I have also witnessed many of the crime rates going down because of the same Beautification Unit fighting to keep Graffiti down, while focusing on that other things get overlooked in my opinion. But at the same time if you don’t have a Community that gets involved to help their City grow things remain the same. 

So, I’ve done my part aside from complain about these several incidents I stood back and just watched as time has went by. But I’ve held it in long enough. I walked through this one tunnel several times and every time I have I have to pass the smell of urine and bird pooh. I walked to go get dinner several times or to go get videos and then I come home and when I finally get home to relax I am disgusted by the smell and sight that I lose my appetite. 

I have faced not only these horrid eye sores but I have had to deal with homeless men that are hanging around the area. I had one man come up to me suspiciously look around to see if anyone was looking as he stepped to me in my space and asked me if I was married and if I lived alone and where was I walking too. Now in other towns and areas I have never had to deal with this type of behavior but this tunnel has attracted the wrong attention and because of the lights that haven’t been changed in I don’t know how many years it is darker than usual at night.

So it not only enables the men during the cold rainy dark times to take more notice and advantage of the secluded areas. The thing that bothers me is that there are kids that walk down this street to take the bus to go to school or that are coming home from school. So you ask what’s my passion behind this whole blog, it’s that I’ve been giving back to my Community but honestly I do not feel that my City officials have really been there for my City. I wish that they would get rid of most of the City council members and put in a whole new batch of people who are dedicated to really taking action! I am so tired of these older officials I mean seriously, I think our City would benefit from a younger generation of people than these old heavy set people in wheel chairs that can’t and haven’t even taken change in their own lives! 

These people who mentor our children I remember a time back when I was younger. I was in fourth grade I will never forget this moment, I really wanted to learn my times tables. It was a big thing for me because back then Math was my favorite subject. Our Mayor at the time was visiting our class it was a big day for me to meet the Mayor she sat next to me this big heavy set woman with white hair and on the small chair.  I thought wow how important I felt. Right? Doesn’t it always seem that way when you are younger that these important people in your life make you feel important! Well she sat with me trying to teach me my times tables, but she didn’t teach me she showed me how to cheat. That experience alone made me lose all the trust I had in the system alone. I honestly at that age was upset that she had taught me to cheat and didn’t really take the time to teach me my times tables. 

Well she’s not the Mayor anymore no, we’ve had several since then but the latest one I was surprised to hear about because he was a man who I had held in high regard. His wife was believe it or not was a teacher or substitute one or the other, anyhow he was recently in the news paper for domestic violence and alcohol. I mean come on! Well this blog isn’t about their family issues, nor is it about their life, it’s about my experience with the business positions they have held in my City and the fact that not even our Officers are being paid enough money for what they do.

Enough of my ramblings, here are a few Photographs to share with you what I am talking about….. It was funny because just yesterday i had brought up the subject and today i caught the Beautification Unit working on the same area of which i am discussing.  But they still left behind the years of bird droppings and the stains on the walls have yet to be taken care of. The piles were bigger than this, as previously shown on other photo's it's just that they swept some of it up just not all of it. Above is before, they swept up some of it, and below is after they swept it. what more can you get from these community service/cal trans workers that don't get paid to do this.

Another point is that not only are the City officials responsible for making sure these issues are being met, but it's the responsibilities of some of these business owners. #JustSaying

VALUE CONFLICT AND ABORTION

ABORTION AND ITS ARGUMENTS

“Value Conflict” In the next few paragraphs if you haven’t already made your decision on abortion, weather to be pro-life or pro-choice. You will see that you will have “Value Conflict” the value being freedom.  Do your core values change? I will share some pro-choice views and pro-life views in which you will be able to question if you still hold strongly to your view without question?

[Science and reason clearly reveal a human fetus to be a human being]

The above proposition is a statement of fact. Its truth or falsity is to be determined by applying principals of science and reasoning. It is not a question of opinion, belief, or religious dogma. Many reasons or justification for killing the unborn human, and thereby terminating an unwanted pregnancy, are not trivial; but certainly they should be examined with rigorousness given that the interest sought to be protected costs the life of a human being. Different people use different standards of measurement by which to define “human life” some use a theological or religious faith belief, some as philosophical theories and beliefs, others by using biologic, scientific facts.

[In regards to Rape Victims]

 We must approach this with great compassion. The woman has been subjected to an ugly trauma, and she needs love, support and help. Being the victim of one violent act should we now ask that she become party to a second violent act – that of abortion? The percentage of rape pregnancies are said to be less than half. Back in 1999 when I started this research, There was a decreased rate in Rapes. What about if the rape victim is married? What if the rape victim is supported by her family members? What about other options?

Clearly you can tell that I am very passionate about this subject given my history. I am a product of a rape  and speaking from experience I can tell you that it is a difficult decision to make and I am proud of my mom for what she had decided.  Although, I have been  a very hard worker, and I’ve went to college and I am here nothing’s wrong with me. There are many questions that I have had to face that will always be there for the rest of my life, like:  What about the baby growing up without a father? I grew up without a father and to be honest with you, you do tend to look for that male security. But you find it in your uncle or your grandfather if you have a loving family, and if you have some type of religious faith you look to God your spiritual father who provides for you. But what happens if you don’t? Then the other option is adoption.

The mother may hate the child due to the fact that she may see some traits of the rapist within the child. This is true but it’s not because she hates the child it’s because she’s been hurt by this man really bad and will be reminded by it for the rest of her life. Will the child know his/her heritage? That’s the question that I still have to deal with. “Where did I come from Mommy?” What will the mother tell the child then?

The decision is when are they ready to hear the truth. I wasn’t ready to hear about the way I was born. I had raised questions like will I grow up to be like this rapist? I was a freshman in high school my mom had gotten married and the man she married wasn’t a good husband. Two years into the relationship she found out that this man was gay and then I had witnessed him abusing my mother. I was traumatized as a child and some things I still face today. I will always be reminded how I was born I can’t change that.

This is one of the major arguments today in our society. Will this child be abused because of who the father really is? Facts have proven that not too many people can get pregnant from a rape. There are many questions  that too like … if the person is too old to conceive, or too young. How can we help? What programs should we have? What about population there are just enough of us in the world today.. It has also been proven that in some countries there are not enough people. And with that you need people to function in a society. I believe that before I did this report I was pro-life but when it comes down to it where does it all go back to? Education, I believe if we educated these high school/college students more then we wouldn’t be having this argument.

The whole reason why this has been a governmental issue is that we have to make sure that an increase in population wouldn’t harm our status now. Second, who will pay for these abortions? Where do our taxes go? I have made a decision not to have an opinion on either side.

I do believe that if there is a child that was a product of a bad home and with a parent that is not mentally fit to have a child and has somehow got pregnant what should she do? I thought classes to teach her how to care for this child. But who will pay for these classes? What if you have a parent that has 7 kids already and one day she doesn’t plan on it and she gets pregnant? What if you need to make the decision of killing your baby or dying because of complications? Where does your sanity lie here?

When it comes to your freedom and your freedom of speech, press, and so on if we give the government our decision to decide whether or not we will keep or not keep this child, then what about later on what other decisions is the government going to make for us? What do you believe do you kind of believe both views? Or neither?

BUDDAHBLESS & MICBUDDA OF WANDO

Mic Budda and BuddahBless1 formally known as "M.C. Fresh Ski" and "The Wax Wizard D.J. Flash" of the 90's hip hop group N.R.G" have their own personal style and are by far from your average Hip-Hop Group! They really accentuate the movement together bringing the true meaning to “N. R. G. (The New Rhythm Generation)”! With the combination of their powerful illuminating look The WanDO Crew inspires and encourages younger audiences and educates us with their insight behind the scenes of Hip-Hop, while bringing in this New Style!

“P. E. A. C. E.”

 
Positive Education Always Creates Elevation.

Mic Budda and Buddah Bless passionately support their freedom of speech with an artistic merit in their music. “NRG was the original “Hip-Hop” group in the “A”. Along with other artist Mic Budda and Buddah Bless were one of the first Rapp artists on vinyl in Atlanta. Buddah Bless AKA "Flash" was the one who did all of the music production and Mic Budda AKA "Fresh-Ski" did the lyrical content. Buddah Bless pioneered the V-103 Fresh Party, hosted by Wanda Ramos of WKTU from New York. The Fresh Party was an hour radio show which played "Hip-Hop Music" on Friday nights. The show had over a 250,000 share of listeners, more than both drive times combined.

The group put out a small album "Creation" and two singles, "Let's Put It In Effect", and "Giving You The Best”“I have grown not just in years but as an MC I had a lot of experience in my lifetime” -Mic Budda

Mic Budda became an MC at the age of 9, his influence came from his father who DJ’d. He immediately became an MC he explains and states that growing up in New York. Mic Budda says it’s not only the music but it was the surrounding and culture of NY lead him to be the MC he is today. Other MC’s heard of Mic Budda at age 9 as he was writing his first rhyme which consisted of four pages front and back. His talent and writing skills gained him popularity with these other MC’s who soon paid Mic Budda to write their music for them.

“I just want to be heard” -Mic Budda

 





Here, MicBudda explains that at age 9 he was interested in being heard having a voice, and making a difference. Here he is today doing what he set out to do along with BuddahBless.

Mic Budda and Budda Bless recorded at 2560 studios in Atlanta, GA with Eddie Irons, the drummer from the Group "Brick". The songs were mastered by Herb "The Hit-Man" Powers of the Hit Factory in New York. All of this was not by chance. Buddah Bless did his homework and they got a little international recognition.

Mic Budda and Buddah Bless were moving against the current and a bit displaced from their core audience, New York, they grew apart.

“My theories about that could make a descent book on the growth of that genre.” -Buddah Bless

Buddah Bless was producing the first condensed press kits for artist to shop there stuff. He’s founded and worked with the following companies, Get Busy Records, K. G. B. Productions since 1983, Co-Founder, Nation Time Syndicate since 1988, and also owns Studio 1 and Park City Records, and is now a member of WanDO. Buddah Bless also maintained an education and Mastered in Psychology, Economics, and Communications.

“AS MY LIFE HAS CHANGED SO HAS MY MUSIC…” -@MicBudda

“I’m a creative person, I like to work with my hands I do graphic arts, music and I play a couple drum machines, other hobbies consist of refurbishing cars in my spare time.” -Buddah Bless

Buddah Bless an Artistic Creator, Tactical administrator, Sample Artist, MPC Master, Sound Engineer making his own living, he wondered whatever happened to "that dude". So with luck Buddah Bless soon hooked up with artist and long time friend Mic Budda through experiences of life and are now bringing you WanDO!

“Hip-Hop is basically a culture with five major keys Art/Graffiti, Music/DJing, Spoken Word/MCing, Dancing/Breaking and Fashion” -Buddah Bless

Let’s not forget the backbone of WanDO -UKNODACREW is comprised of a lot of musical talented minds and artist. UKNODACREW is more fan based/fan page and explores Producers, Performers & photographers that keep the group alive, the submerging of the ego to the group mind, and the ways that performers work together to create something better than and different from what one solitary individual could create alone. These explorations provide insight into all forms of group creativity and collaboration. People keep informed and in connect through UKNODACREW with various artist.

The President of UKNODACREW SmilesTF1 contributed his beat to the album "The Grey Tapes". SmilesTF1 In his over 12 years of experience, SmilesTF1 is a well rounded producer. He started TF1 Productions in 1997. " Third Letter VA" , " SmilesTF1 " are The Founders of UKNODACREW.

You can contact SmilesTF1 at his Website SmilesTF1 for further information. Record Label Forever Infinite Entertainment Type of Label Indie Genre: Experimental / Hip Hop / R&B Location NORFOLK, Virginia, US.

To review their music for yourself please follow the links below to their other Social Media Sites! Thank you for your time and consideration when reviewing. - Sarah Saldana

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UKNODACREW

Love Letter Six - To My Future Husband

 My Dear Best Friend, Companion, Lover, and Future Husband!!!

It is like the salt in the sea that numbs my tongue, and the stillness of the day that sets the mood for this kind of love. You are far more better than the last. You terrify me with your charm, you torture me with your way’s and in all this I am elated to move steps closer to moving toward a NEW found relationship with you!

 

More precious than I’ve ever felt before a love far beyond compare no one can step to you Fearless! I’m ready to do this! With a hold you have on me that kind that I can’t and won’t decline to let go. The sound of you oh so… you move me the right way you ignite my soul like never before sharing a part of me that no one else has ever cared to share.

Hold me close! please! Listen, while I whisper to you that you’ve really got a hold on me right here is where I’ll stay, Because tonight I want to make things right! I want to be the only girl that you’ll ever need. The door to my heart is open, palpitating every beat you’ve descended into my life. A beat that no mentally talented artist could deride, you’ve expressed in one minuet what millions thrive to experience over periods of decades.

You have no shadows beneath you - walking with a strength that emits from your smile. No cold barriers to break no chains or shackles of past histories or relationships that burden your walk with me. You have this clean slate as if I were a child again in a classroom awaiting my grade I’d give you this I’d give you my love as a final “A” but it would never end, an undying love that contradicts itself at night when it is in fact day.

I can not sustain these feelings that of which I hunger for your touch a friendship that feeds my very entity and completeness. I am not used to this passion of which one doth not hold such a chance for a pain that is greater than which one has loved. Doesn’t it feel costly of us to spend each waking moment in such wondrous thought if you were shelved I would take you without hesitation and make you mine. A rare complexity of emotions that have flavored my life with much spirit and color. A warm heart yearning to be in love do you not feel the warmth that lingers on simple wavery. Least I breathe this last perfumed breath that intoxicates me with your affection, I’ve isolated myself until you come to me, so that no other love could bare witness to my lips I long for them to be yours.

Kisses,
Your Future Wife
Sarah Saldana

~MUSIC: A Passion of the Heart & Soul!!~

Lately, I’ve been discovering some New and Up and coming Music! I’d like to share some ideas with you and let you know exactly what I am looking for.

What I’m looking for in the music that I review:

1. I’m looking for fresh talent! Something new that hasn’t been on the Radio yet. I’m seeking to help those struggling young artists. Any Genre!! I’m open minded and ready to sit down and review     your Music/Talent!

2. An Inspirational artist, not so negative. Although I know it’s necessary to have a minimal amount of negativity. Not every artist can be as positive because they wouldn’t be struggling if everything was alright. I know that there are stories and life experiences that aren’t so pretty. With a regard to your feelings and an open mind I seek an individual/Group that has the hindsight to recognize what the boundaries of this is. I would like the individual/Group to succeed not just because they want too but because they have it in their heart and mind to be a ROLE model for younger men and women alike.
   
3. An individual/Group with a “Fresh Style”

There is no excuse for nudity and that is not what I am promoting I am all about young men and women making something of themselves without the backdrop of selling their body’s to get somewhere in life. It takes more than that! You wouldn’t expect me to be selling your music looking like aunt cha-cha! With the exception with the latest artists : ie., LadyGaga it really depends on what type of audience you are reaching. I preferably would like to get to know you on a professional level and would hope that you could provide me with a resume and professional photo of yourself this will help us both!

See below photo for example of Aunt Cha Cha!

4. In Regards to Groups! - Team Players!

It takes huge dedication and strides to work together as a group. Because everyone has their own style and own opinion it makes it difficult to work with a group that doesn’t know what they want. Gather your ideas! If you request help with Graphic work or Photography please know what it is you want as a Group! Because not just for myself but when networking with other Photographers and Artists this will help you out more than it will help me! Know what you want as a team, agree as a team and deliver as a team!

Agreement Between Members of Group. If it is a group (as opposed to a solo artist) releasing the record, and if the group has not already formalized its relationship by way of a partnership agreement, incorporation, or limited liability company ("LLC"), there should at least be a clear and simple written agreement among the group members about how the finances of the recording project will be handled. Also, it is always a good idea to deal with the issue of the ownership of the group's name as early in the group's career as possible.

 

5. An Educated Artist!

Please if you rap know what your rhyming don’t just rhyme your words be real and concise. Please be knowledgable in the area of any legal ramifications of distribution or social media content. 

Distribution and Promotion Strategy. Think ahead about how the record will be distributed, advertised, and promoted, and how much money will be needed to effectively market the record. Sometimes all (or almost all) of the budget for a project is spent on recording and manufacturing costs, and there is little or no money left to effectively advertise or promote the record. This, of course, is not really a legal issue but is such a common (and often fatal) problem.

Liability Releases/Permission Forms. You need to consider the possible necessity of getting a liability release or permission form signed in any of the following scenarios: (a) If a photograph and/or artistic image of an individual outside the group is included in the artwork; (b) If any of the artwork which you are going to use is owned by any third party; or (c) If any logos or trademarks owned by third parties appear in your artwork. There can be some tricky legal issues in this area, so be very careful here.

6. Anti-Vulgarity - In regards to all racial slurs, gang affiliated mentions, anything demeaning or degrading. 

Last but not least! BE PREPARED KNOW YOUR RELEASE DATES! If you want a project done make sure you have enough time to have things done in a timely manner and not scheduled at the last minuet!  If you would like to introduce me to your music or you are a new artists and you fit this description please feel free to contact me at JustSweetAngel@gmail.com please make sure you place "SARAH'S MUSIC REVIEW REQUEST" in the subject line so that you can receive a speedy response! Thank you for your time and patience in this matter! Sincerely Sarah!!! LET'S GET POUNDING!!!  ROCK ON YOU MUSIC MAKERS!

NOTICE TO MUSIC VISITORS: The above information is offered for general informational purposes only, and not for the purpose of providing legal advice. You are cautioned to seek the advice of your own attorney concerning the applicability of the general principles discussed above to your own particular activities.

Tyler Perry's For Colored Girls My Review

Out of all the movies that Tyler Perry has directed and or Produced this has got to be one of the best a very PROFOUND movie he’s done! I thought man this man has hit the jack pot with “Precious” But he didn’t stop he kept going he had more in him and he continues to show us that all his movies are family oriented about Forgiveness and this God fearing man brings not just poetry to life but comedy, song, dance, and the Gospel through his characters! This man Tyler Perry… has a fire inside him that no one can quench and it’s written all over his face!

 I don’t want to burn it with that cliché oh it’s “Phenomenal” which most would suggest that it is, I prefer that it just be a heart felt down to earth film about the lives of women that are going through some form of crisis one way or another.

In any case the stories of these women wouldn’t have been voiced on their own. Instead with the help and direction of Mr. Perry these stories come to life in ways unbelievably astounding captivating every part of my soul. You will be laughing, crying, you will even be shrieking as you watch this movie but unless you’ve someway or another can relate to these women these “Colored Girl‘s” you won’t ever feel that deep rooted feeling that get’s in your gut like “I’ve been there before” “I know what he’s talking about”, “I can relate, I understand and I hear someone saying YOUR NOT ALONE” because “I am a Colored Girl” and you don’t have to be black to be colored.

I would encourage you not to only see this movie but MAKE an investment today something worth your time something valuable, your not just making an investment by buying Tyler Perry movies today but you are keeping with you a token so far more valuable than money, you can’t buy an understanding of someone’s life but you can share these movies with your family!

And I guarantee you your wife, your husband and children will have a better understanding of what life has to offer and what they do have and what they don’t have and where they have been and where they’re going if they continue the wrong route.

These movies are educating and inspiring and at the same time with a deep emotional level of awareness these movies provide laughter and give you that sense of the fact that “You never know what someone else is going through” Tyler Perry not only expresses these issues in women’s lives but the movie is very poetic and also touches on relationships. Janet Jackson plays the role of a business women who has a husband who likes being with men. Another woman invites a man over to her house for dinner and the man rapes her,  another women is married to a man who suffers from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and is not safe to have around their children and child services has to intervene.

“The movie not only reveals these women’s lives but when you relate to them on some level the movie actually reveals you the viewer. “

Tyler Perry for some reason or another has a thing with mentioning the neighbor a lot the helpful but nosey neighbor yes, there’s one in this movie too! She’s the kind of mother that most girls don’t see in their own mother.

As I watched this movie and I sat there listening to that man beat that women it brought me back to the childhood history of my mother being beat. Unlike in the movie I didn’t have a neighbor I could go to no one to comfort me at 4 years old when I thought my dad killed my mother rendering her unconscious. This movie has not only hit close to home with me but many others and hopefully those women that are in the same boat I hope they realize the extent of what could happen if they stay in a relationship like that.

It also encapsulates when a woman goes through an abortion. How many young teens have abortions because they don’t want their parents to find out that they had gotten pregnant, or fears of being rejected by family because they were having a child out of wed-lock.  Not only do these women face tragic stories but this movie also demonstrates that even the counselors, teachers, advisors, neighbors and other family members suffer too. 

My favorite part of the movie because I can relate closely to it is when the older daughter and mother were having a discussion about her husband molesting her daughter. Not only did the husband do this to the mother who is played by Whoopi Goldberg, but he abused his daughter also. You can see the cycle being played out through poetry as the women are talking to each other about themselves and their experiences.

The over all connection I have to this movie is that I am a woman and I have been in similar situations. As revealing as this movie is for myself it is that much more revealing to the real problems in our world. Not enough women are speaking up! Not enough women are sticking together! Women need to EMPOWER each other! That is my connection with this movie “WERE SISTERS” “I THINK THE LEAST WE CAN DO IS JUST BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER” -Excerpt from the movie

Daddy’s Girl

**My Opinion Piece**

“The family you come from isn’t as important as the family you’re going to have”

Ring Lardner

How many of you men and honestly live your life thinking about the things you’ve done to many women that you regret? I mean I sit here and I think about the ex boyfriends I’ve had. I haven’t had any real “Good” boyfriends in my life at all. As for men I really haven’t had anyone to really look up to that aspired greatness, for me most of the men including family members have made their own mistakes and lived their own life. I could never look at them in a different light than what they have shed. Some have done drugs and have been in jail some have died to obesity and my biological father well we won’t go there. Even my step-father who lived with me during my younger years did not appeal to me as a father more of just a man who lived with us a dad. There is a difference, not too many men in my life have been the model of a “GOOD man”.

“How can you give her what you’ve never experienced?” - Sarah Saldana

I’m wondering if they thought about their children how their daughters would feel if they were treated this way. If “boys” didn’t take your daughter and open the door for her when they took her out to eat or if they didn’t keep their promises or if they weren’t honest with them.  I mean if you had a daughter and she was coming to you and she cried her heart out and said “daddy, that boy broke my heart“. What are the things you would tell your daughter? What would you tell your son? I mean boys go through this too…. Not just girls they hurt and cry and lash out because they don’t know how to deal with things. Not excluding adults but that’s my whole point if we could some how change this from the root with the parents attitude and discipline ourselves to be better at this just at treating people better treating ourselves better. Then maybe our children won’t suffer the same things we’ve suffered.

They won’t be “Co-dependent”, “Needy”, “Self-centered” or have a low self esteem. How long does it take to heal from a broken heart? Are you allowing enough time between coming out of a relationship and moving into the next one? My ideal is to talk about it through the entire course of just getting to know someone one month two months three months …. After 3 months you should at least be able to say this bothers me can we talk about it.

I mean the girl starts out wishing and hoping and dreaming for a perfect romance and being married to the right man and she finds herself divorced taking care of kids alone with dogs eating ice cream and gaining weight. What kind of example is this for your children? What type of women meets men on a daily basis and different one’s at that… going from man to man figuring this is the right one… this time this one will be the last one, only to be broken and hurt again because she’s placed her trust into this man. I’ve witnessed a mother who neglected her son to date men she met at night clubs.” it happens a lot it’s just not talked about in the open.

I’ve dedicated my life to the Lord again and all my questions have been answered they have been there all along I wondered these things not because of my past experiences but because of my future what was going to happen to my life. Would I be single for the rest of my life is that what I want? Or do I plan on making my life with someone and living with them, the question I come to all the time Morals and Values vs. Real time experiences sure I was raised to not live with a man until he marry’s me. I was raised to not have a child with a man out of wed lock. I see these men on twitter tweet contradictions of themselves one minuet tweeting “#Ladies if a man loves you he’s not going to do this to you…. Blah blah blah” yes I read them! And then I turn around and I see that same “BOY” I won’t even call him a man tweeting “You fat bitches you get what you want this is how it is” I mean come on now!

“Accept others without condition. It’s the very essence of love” - Linda Allison Lewis

Then you have the audacity to question my stance on my belief!!!?!?!? “What the What!!!” any how this isn’t about them this blog is about me, it’s about my walk with God I realized the only man the ONLY ONE MAN that has been with me the course of my birth and my life has been God. He is my father  my unborn son my husband my rod and staff he is my strength. He teaches me through his word and guides me through the day through others. He has put people in my life that have shared the word with me and one of the things I had struggled with was being “UNEQUALLY YOLKED“! Some of you may not know the term but I was taught that being “unequally yoked” has a lot to do with relationships.

It basically in lame terms as I understand it means that your husband, significant other, boyfriend whatever who ever is in your love life at that time does not believe in the same belief you do. It could be a number of things he could be catholic or a Satanist, a non believer all the while you have your belief system and it’s not the same as his. Which causes confusion.

How to address these issues before further getting involved with someone before you  move on to girlfriend boyfriend status. I would address any issues by questioning and asking point blank what is it that you like what is it that you don’t like what can you deal with and what just right out gets you so upset you want to scream. I think in between what is your favorite color, food, song… there should be at some point a discussion about beliefs.  There is so much more than just getting to know someone on a basic level there is the cultural differences, and family and geographically being able to be with someone in question. I mentioned to a good friend of mine that “Gentlemen” means bond of household in German I believe that man that you decided to be with for the rest of your life should be the bond the glue that holds together that family who wants better for their family who servers God with all his heart because if the man in the house is serving the Lord then so will his family. If the man goes to church then so will his family.

CAN LOVE EXIST WHERE THERE IS NO TRUST...?

I can honestly say no, I don’t think it’s easy for me to trust men in my life, because I’ve been hurt by so many. Frankly I don’t want to trust you I don’t have too trust you. I don’t OWE you my trust! I don’t think it’s easy for any rape victim or anyone for that matter to trust men when she’s been hurt to the point where she’s yelling and her skin tears and she’s crying and she has no idea what actually just happened to her body. You can’t force someone who has gone through this to trust you or anyone for that matter. In my opinion you don’t know what everyone’s been through in their life and if they don’t share these things with you then you will never know another part of getting to know someone. God loves me as I am there is no explaining to him he understands he sees all he knows all and to him I have given my trust and my pain and have survived these things learned from them and gained experienced from them.

SO TRUST IN JESUS IS INHERENT TO LOVING GOD...

God asks me to love his son and this is why when I pray I say “In Jesus Name Amen”.

John 14:1 Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.

How can we say that we love Him, if we don't trust Him? And how can we love him and not his son imagine not loving your family this way.

DO WE REALLY TRUST JESUS...?

To be the way, the truth, the life (enough to put our souls in His hands)? - Jn 14:6

To be the provider of our daily needs (enough to put the kingdom first)? - Mt 6:33

How do you express your love for the Lord, do you delight in his company? When you love someone you love being with them you enjoy being with them. Can you imagine someone loving Jesus but not wanting to be with him? We also often demonstrate love by talking about him and through our works. You can tell a person who has God in their hearts not only through praise and worship but by living accordingly to his word.

  BY WILLINGLY SUFFERING FOR HIM MANY MAKE GREAT SACRIFICES FOR OTHERS...

Just as parents suffer trying to make it day by day putting food on the table and working hard to survive. Providing a safe environment for their children. This is love a love from real parents who want the best for their children. The love goes beyond providing a roof over their head and food on the table you have to nourish your child with good fruitful words that will help them grown and become the Ladies and Men that are successors! Are you raising your kids to succeed or are you neglecting them ignoring them not spending time with them?

People are willing to jeopardize their lives for loved ones I want to jeopardize my love for the Lord I know he has for me he showed his love by dying for my sins. How much more jeopardy can you show than that? Even a dog will risk his life to save his master. But no man will ever Love me like my father God in Heaven!

Happy Valentines day Father you are the only man the only  man I know in my life that has been worthy of my Love!!! In Jesus Name I pray Amen!